So sorry to hear about what happened with your friend. But the fact that they would go so far to plan a huge revenge scheme after a careless accident that caused a tragedy is definitely terrible on their end no matter how you slice it...your intentions were good and theirs were malicious, even if putting your life in danger wasn't intended on their part! There's no getting around that. So of course you have every right to be upset with them for doing something like that! Regardless of how they felt after what you did, they're going out of their way to hurt you after an accident. And even if it caused something really bad, an accident is an accident!!! Far different from going out of your way to hurt someone, and far worse, in my opinion. Their decision to make that plan was theirs, no one forced them, so no, it's not your fault.
Before I answer the bit about you moving forward, I wanna know: what's your opinion of this friend now, even after they went out of your way to hurt you like that?? Do you think that maybe you guys can patch things up at some point?? Do you think at one point you'd eventually be able to forgive them for hurting you so badly?? They clearly weren't able to forgive you for that accident, and forgiveness has to go both ways, but, if you want to move forward with them, I'd suggest at some point talking the whole thing out and figuring out what you can do together as friends, especially if you were close before this whole thing?? I hope you can reach something with them somewhere down the line but that comes later of course!!!
I hope talking about this now helps at least a little. Just to get it off your chest and all?? I definitely HOPE that you can end up working something out and forgiving yourself, because I think that everyone deserves a second chance if they truly, sincerely want to better themselves and make up for their mistakes. That could just be me being naive and all but I really honestly do. You don't sound like a bad person. There's a big difference between making mistakes and being bad at your core, y'know?? Just because a decision you made had a bad consequence doesn't mean you're not a good person, it just means you made a bad decision, is all!! But it's not the end of the world!!! You can't forget about what happened and sweep it under the rug so to speak but you also can't dwell on it, you have to take positive steps, think about doing what you can to make the best present for yourself from here on out!!
I dunno I'm bad at advice so this came out as kinda word salad?? But I guess the most important thing is just being honest with yourself and taking care of yourself, realizing what you want and need. You've done something you regret and that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes, but they don't define you! It's learning from those mistakes that's the important thing!!! Don't let your past tie you down!!!! ♡
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Before I answer the bit about you moving forward, I wanna know: what's your opinion of this friend now, even after they went out of your way to hurt you like that?? Do you think that maybe you guys can patch things up at some point?? Do you think at one point you'd eventually be able to forgive them for hurting you so badly?? They clearly weren't able to forgive you for that accident, and forgiveness has to go both ways, but, if you want to move forward with them, I'd suggest at some point talking the whole thing out and figuring out what you can do together as friends, especially if you were close before this whole thing?? I hope you can reach something with them somewhere down the line but that comes later of course!!!
I hope talking about this now helps at least a little. Just to get it off your chest and all?? I definitely HOPE that you can end up working something out and forgiving yourself, because I think that everyone deserves a second chance if they truly, sincerely want to better themselves and make up for their mistakes. That could just be me being naive and all but I really honestly do. You don't sound like a bad person. There's a big difference between making mistakes and being bad at your core, y'know?? Just because a decision you made had a bad consequence doesn't mean you're not a good person, it just means you made a bad decision, is all!! But it's not the end of the world!!! You can't forget about what happened and sweep it under the rug so to speak but you also can't dwell on it, you have to take positive steps, think about doing what you can to make the best present for yourself from here on out!!
I dunno I'm bad at advice so this came out as kinda word salad?? But I guess the most important thing is just being honest with yourself and taking care of yourself, realizing what you want and need. You've done something you regret and that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes, but they don't define you! It's learning from those mistakes that's the important thing!!! Don't let your past tie you down!!!! ♡