[Man. It sure seems like the guilt and moral difficulties just keep going 'round, huh?]
Since it's gonna color my answers, you oughta know that I'm someone who's helped perpetrate something closer to the first part of your scenario than the second. Though it was less careless than misinformed, and less accidental than...again, misinformed.
It sounds like what you're doing, when you ask if it's all right to be pissed off when someone else hurts you, is taking responsibility for that person's shit. It's okay to feel guilt and remorse for the things you've done - it's damn human to - but revenge? That's not like throwing a ball into a wall and it bouncing back into your face, that's throwing a ball at someone else and them choosing to break your nose with it. What I'm saying is it's not the logical conclusion of your action. Your friend isn't a ball or a wall, they get to own their own responses to what happens.
So, no. However culpable you are in the first thing, you're not wrong to want to slug someone for doing you wrong. And if you are, you're not alone.
[Would he hit a guy with glasses? Ohhhh, would he ever hit a guy with glasses.]
Anyway. As to the rest, I think first you oughta think about what you're really asking.
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Since it's gonna color my answers, you oughta know that I'm someone who's helped perpetrate something closer to the first part of your scenario than the second. Though it was less careless than misinformed, and less accidental than...again, misinformed.
It sounds like what you're doing, when you ask if it's all right to be pissed off when someone else hurts you, is taking responsibility for that person's shit. It's okay to feel guilt and remorse for the things you've done - it's damn human to - but revenge? That's not like throwing a ball into a wall and it bouncing back into your face, that's throwing a ball at someone else and them choosing to break your nose with it. What I'm saying is it's not the logical conclusion of your action. Your friend isn't a ball or a wall, they get to own their own responses to what happens.
So, no. However culpable you are in the first thing, you're not wrong to want to slug someone for doing you wrong. And if you are, you're not alone.
[Would he hit a guy with glasses? Ohhhh, would he ever hit a guy with glasses.]
Anyway. As to the rest, I think first you oughta think about what you're really asking.
What do you think forgiving yourself entails?